Friday, August 22, 2014

Goodbye for now Malawi

We couldn't have asked for a better last day in Malawi. The weather was fantastic and so was the company. We drove with Danneck from the Lighthouse Trust to meet with Area 50 group and Mphatso group. Both groups loved the signes that we brought them and were already coming up with ideas of how they could use more materials and make different items to be more successful. The Mphatso group already has an event planned at the end of the month for HIV testing in their community. We bought a lot of beautiful items that I can't wait to show off. We are still working on forming a partnership with the Lighthouse Trust, there just wasn't time to work on it today with our scheduled meetings with the groups. 
It is difficult to say goodbye to Malawi, so for now it is "see you next year." Thank you for following our journey for the past 2 weeks here in Malawi. We will continue to have updates over the next couple of months until we return to Malawi.
Zikomo!


Thursday, August 21, 2014

Partnership and Chisomo

Today was very productive. We were able to negotiate a new, year long partnership with NAPHAM and we are looking forward to the mutually progress over the coming year. I really enjoy working with this organization and their support groups. We have been able to meet with them and give advice and support. Here is a picture from this morning's meeting. I am shaking hands with Paul Manyamba who is the Program Manager. 
Our afternoon meeting with Chisomo was encouraging. We got a chance to talk to them about their goals for the groups and plans on selling for the coming year. We purchased some beautiful knits items that I can't wait to share! 
How cute are these booties and hat? 
I'm really looking forward to meeting with Area 50 group and Mphatso group tomorrow to see the progress they have made! Tomorrow is also our last full day in Malawi since we are flying home on Saturday. There is still a lot we are going to do in the next 36 hours here in Malawi!

Wednesday, August 20, 2014

Mtsiliza Meeting

Today we got to pick up the banners for our two new groups, Mphatso and Area 50 support groups. I really hope they both like the new banners and that it will help with advertising. We even added the logo for Lighthouse on the banner!
This afternoon we met with the Mtsiliza support groups again to find it what they have learned about knitting machines and to see what items they had for sale. We were joined by Moses from NAPHAM to assist in translation and who will assist while Tasha is out on maternity leave. The group is really looking forward to getting a knitting machine (so keep an eye out for an upcoming fundraiser!) We are looking forward to monitoring their progress and working together to help them purchase additional machines in the future. Mtsiliza has made some gorgeous baby items that we are looking forward to selling as well as bags. 
I love the orange sweater, I wish they made it in my size! I'm really looking forward to sharing everything that we bought.
We had a great time  seeing this group again and can't wait to hear what they will accomplish in the next year!

Side note:
We are actually participating in a craft show at St. Luke's church on Fort Hunt Road in Alexandria on September 13, 2014 from 9-3pm if you want to check out our knitted goods.

Tuesday, August 19, 2014

A Lesson in Malawian History

The Mua Mission in KuNgoni


   Welcome back friends of KATW! We had a very exciting impromptu trip this past Sunday that was such a learning experience for the two of us. Last I left, Kelly and I had a nice dinner with our new friend Henry. Although the conversation did get heavy with many difficult subjects brought up, we were left with a promise from Henry to take us to one of his "happy places", the Mua Mission in KuNgoni. 
   The day was supposed to start around 10 in the morning, but Henry had a very odd morning and wasn't able to come pick us up until 1230 (it was a free ride, so we weren't going to complain). We were joined by Henry's young son, Henri, and after a quick introduction we set off. Henry's ride turned out to be his car that he had shipped here from the US. It was oddly comforting being in a familiar car once again, but quite a juxtaposition when compared to where we were. 
   Henry told us that he had been out to the mission several times, but because it was so off the beaten track it was easy to get lost. He wasn't kidding. The ride out was long, but very beautiful. We went from the low lands of Lilongwe up into the surrounding mountains that went on forever. At times Kelly and I thought that we were not actually traveling but watching movie scenery pass us by. Kelly mentioned that the landscape was so stereotypical of what one expects to see in an African country, that it seemed to be a caricature of itself. Words don't do the landscape justice so I will let the pictures speak. 
   While we enjoyed the incredible landscape, the ride itself was at times a bit harrowing. The roads in Malawi very seldom have traffic signs, informing those on it what the speed was, what road you were on, mile markers etc. These roads were two lane, windy mountain roads where one could easily crash into oncoming traffic if a turn wasn't taken correctly. The roads were also populated by cyclists, people selling goods on the sides, herds of animals (goats mainly) and others walking to where ever they needed to be. Villages would pop up out of nowhere and when that happened goats would almost get hit, we would go from very fast (80-90 mph) to a slow crawl or complete stop. If that wasn't enough, there were random barricades or checkpoints. When we asked Henry what the purpose of them was, he said that because the police force here make so little often times they would throw up these barricades so get money from those that wanted to pass through. Since he had diplomatic plates, we needn't worry, so we didn't. 
   After about two hours we arrived at our destination. The road up to the mission is a steep dirt road that is poorly marked, but at the very end of the road was an amazing little paradise. The mission was started in 1902 by 3 Catholic priests who wanted to help the natives out of poverty, sickness, and ignorance. I'm sure this is code for, they wanted to convert the "savages", but that's just my opinion. What we found that day was actually a cultural center dedicated to preserving the memory of the past. The current priest, a French Canadian, has made tremendous strides to incorporate native traditions, myths, philosophies into the teachings of the church as well as preserving important crafts, skills, and ceremonies. He has made such an impression on the people that the three original tribes of Malawi; Yao, Ngoni and Chewa, that they have inducted him as a member in all three. He has also been excommunicated by the Catholic Church three times. 
   The center has three main houses, one a studio where you can purchase beautiful hand carved pieces of art, a museum where one can learn about the mission, the three tribes and their beliefs, and the final building is where the carvers show off their skills. In the art gallery are astoundingly beautiful works of art made by generations of carvers and painters. The art gallery quite literally took my breath away.
   We spent an hour in the studio where we all purchased many items and Henry inquired about a statue that he had specially ordered. Because the carvers were generations deep, anything one saw in the art gallery could be recreated by a current artist. Had I the money and the space, I would have ordered one of everything. 
   In the museum we learned about the tribes that once populated the area. Members of the tribes are still active, but like the Native Americans, have lost a lot and still struggle with identity. We did learn that those who are still active members of the 3 tribes meet once a year for a big ceremonial dance and conference in Tanzania. One of these years I will make it to the conference and view whatever they allow me to witness. Our tour guide, took us around the museum which has three rooms, but only one we were allowed to photograph. The two that we couldn't take pictures in, housed all of the ancient artifacts, pictures of traditional life and their ceremonial masks. Due to the tribes passing down their beliefs through oral tradition, symbolism in masks, ceremonies and objects was a way to educate the young ones. Every color, object, shape, creature etc. had multiple meanings. The masks, ten thousand in all, were all used as a way to encourage good behavior and discourage bad. They wanted their children to practice good oral hygiene so a bird like mask with many white teeth was used to teach that concept. A horned black mask with fire on top was to symbolize the power of magic and the responsibility one has when blessed with such power. It was so incredible to see such complicated messages molded into an object. I will never tire of learning about all of the ways art has been used by humans as a means of education and communication. It was quite easy to draw parallels between what I saw before me and all that I learned about native cultures all over the world. For instance, ancient Celts believed that during Samhain the souls could walk the Earth and to keep the bad ones away one would have to dress up, wear a mask or paint your face so that you were unrecognizable. It always surprises and angers me how so many like to dismiss "native culture" as something that only happened in Africa and the Americas before the white men came. 
   I was happy to see that history had not been fully erased and was actually making a comeback. There were still ceremonies being performed, albeit without some of the more unnecessarily violent rituals and we in fact ran into a group of masked dancers while we were leaving. They shook there rattles and moved in a way that didn't seem quite human. The masks that they wore were very intimidating and they made sure to get very close to us. It took a lot for me to not scream. They were, after all, just men in masks. 
   On the car ride home, I took time to contemplate all that I learned. Human history is fluid, progressing and rewinding, the past at times, overlapping the present. Sometimes it is erased completely, only traces being "discovered" for yet another rewrite of what possibly happened. I was so excited to learn about the earlier Malawians, before the white man came to try to erase and stigmatize their identity. There are people in Lilongwe who won't go up to the mission because of the "witchcraft" that is performed there. How proud the missionaries must be. The irony is not lost on me, that the one who should be preventing the preservation and resurrection of the native culture, is actually its biggest supporter. The center does come off as a tourist attraction, but one that is truly sincere. Yes there is a spectacle, a show that is put on, but if that means being able to remember and preserve that which once was, I say its worth it. 

Monday, August 18, 2014

Making New Friends

Weekend adventure


   Hello KATW friends, hope your weekend was everything you wanted it to be. Kelly and I spent the weekend sleeping in (WOOT!) and getting to know a new friend. Last year when Kelly brought one of her board members here, he met a gentleman named Henry Roberts who works at the American Embassy as a financial management officer. Those two clicked and Matt, a KATW board member, told Kelly to look him up when she got back. So, as promised, when we got here Kelly shot him an email and we made plans to meet up for dinner on Saturday. 
   We met up at a little restaurant, Serendipity, to talk over some good food and very good Malawian gin, well I had the gin, Kelly drank a coke. Henry asked Kelly about KATW, what she wanted to do with it, what she has done and any issues she's come across. As we started talking about working/living in Malawi, themes of cultural differences, political corruption, traditions vs modernization and traits of humanity, came up. We learned that Malawi was not Henry's first time living in an African country, he had lived in Cote d'Ivoire before and loved it, then was assigned to Malawi. Having lived in two different countries, we started asking him about his experience living in Malawi.
  He mentioned that the government is still struggling with how to develop the country, needless to say infrastructure is seriously lacking here, as well as people trying to balance life as it "once was" with how it "could be". This struggle is felt from the very top of the government down to the very poorest.  Equality among the sexes is minimal at best. Women here are still "bought" from their families. Henry, who is planning on marrying his second wife, is currently in the midst of bargaining a bride price for his girlfriend/fiancé. One might assume she and her family don't know any other way, but that would be a mistake. She (fiancé) went to boarding schools in South Africa and college in London and continued to live there for 10 years, so suffice it say, she has been exposed to other cultures. This cultured young woman is currently in charge of a few stores that her mother owns, her mother being the household entrepreneur, while her father is currently unemployed and has been for quite sometime. Yet, these women essentially have very few rights (according to traditions). Both of these women were bought from their families and if they were ever to be divorced they would go back to their families penniless and childless (assuming there are children) for they all go to the father.
   So essentially a woman here, even if she is a business owner, is worth no more than her uterus. Henry's fiancé, as the woman, is expected to take care of the house even if she is also the bread winner. Her mother, Henry's soon to be mother-in-law, does the same thing. She runs several stores then comes home to cook her husband dinner. Now to be fair since they are so well off she is able to afford all the help she wants or needs, but if something should go wrong at home, she is responsible. Henry also reports that the former president Dr. Joyce Banda would even have to go home and fulfill her wifely duties by taking care of the household. Kelly and I sat there incredulously staring at Henry, not wanting to believe that the highest official in a country was still feeling the pressure to hold onto some traditions. 
  We talked about this pressure to conform to traditions. Henry had experienced the challenges of the village mentality when it came to employing some household help. He mentioned that many who are employed are taking care of their very extended family. This is such a wonderful thought, though is very difficult in practice. To know that your neighbors have your back and they have yours is so helpful in stressful and dire times. However, there comes a time when one has to say "I'm sorry I can't right now". In America this happens all the time. As a former lifeguard we were taught that you can help no one if you yourself are drowning. If you say no to an extended family member in need here in Malawi, you are shamed and shunned and that is worse than death. Henry had workers ask him for money for clothes for their kids, cousins, medicine for an illness, doctors appointments etc. on top of their salary. Being a kind and generous soul he said yes, but if you give a mouse a cookie. The requests kept pouring in and there was very little proof that the money was going where it needed to. Finally he had to say no, even fire a few. He unfortunately has become jaded by the experiences and now is very wary about giving money to those that ask. It's always so sad when the few bad ones really ruin it for the good guys.
  This can all be very hard to swallow, especially when one wants to believe in nothing but the absolute best in people, however it is necessary to know. When we met with the first two groups that KATW was working with, they admitted to us that they were struggling with selling items. Not enough buyers, it took to long to hand knit items, to costly to go to market etc. which are valid struggles. Could they go to the markets everyday? No, they had other jobs or families to take care of. Could they work out a schedule so that one or two would go and everybody else would chip in to help take care of their houses or jobs? No. Had they been going to different markets? No too costly, not enough time. All of these reasons, I feel are valid, but were they excuses for not selling?
   KATW is struggling with how to balance out the needs of the groups, with the mission of the organization. Does one change the mission to meet the needs of the people or change the people to meet the mission of the organization? As a teacher, I must admit to struggling with how best to help students that need it. How many times do I have to demonstrate how to solve a problem, how often do I have to get them started, how much help do I give them before I give them nothing but a sense of helplessness and dependence? I've seen parents get frustrated with watching their kids struggle. They let them struggle for a bit (if at all) then just throw their hands up and say "you know what just let me do it for you". This helps no one. Charities are like teachers and parents, helping those that need it until they can help themselves, but where is that line? When do you step back and say "I've given enough. It's time for you to work. Yes you will struggle and yes it won't seem like you're getting anywhere, but there will be a point when you look back and realize how far you've gone". Where will that line be for KATW? How will the groups react when that line is drawn? Time will tell.

Saturday, August 16, 2014

Our trip in photos

#youcan'ttakeabadphotoinMalawi


Hello again friends! As the unofficial official photographer of this trip I thought I'd give my words a rest and let the photos speak for themselves. They will be accompanied with some info to give context, but some are just "so dern purrdy" that I'll let them speak for themselves. Before I shut-up I would like to share what we learned on Friday in a series of one liners…

The smoke, diesel fumes and dust may be giving me a sinus infection.
The Chisomo group is experiencing the same problems and desires as the others.
Children flock to us and we love it.
We are a tourist attraction.
Getting a knitting machine for some of the groups is an economically wise choice.
Tasha, KATW's NAPHAM contact is very pregnant and forgetful.
The curio market is a dangerous place for my wallet and sanity.
There is hope to be found in even the most dire of circumstances.


Now on to the photos!

Gentleman on the way in to Mtsiliza asked for his photo to be taken. I happily obliged!



The above on the way into Mtsiliza




Black Diamond Pub in Mtsiliza is where its at!

Mtsiliza Support group meeting place


Getting the meeting started first with a song and then signing in, oh paperwork.



Mtsiliza board member



Kelly liked the hat. It may have been a tad small.




On the way out of Mtsiliza we met two missionaries from the Church of Latter Day Saints. Kelly asked them if they were going into town to visit the Catholic Church...

Lighthouse area 50 group showing off their mad skills.

Area 50 support group house

Neighborhood by Area 50 support group house.

Local well





These two girls were voguing. They had a third join them later.


Mphatso support group house


Mphatso group member



What we found interesting was that every wall had shards of glass, plastic or nails/barbed wire on top. Thievery is a big problem here in Malawi.



I loved seeing all the chickens. Tasty and pretty.



Mphatso support group working excitedly with their new yarn and needles.

Kelly and Sam


Perfect little smiles.  

They've come to see the mzugu.



Chisomo group. Kelly was very excited to see little Olive (green sweater) who is now a year old and despite having both parents be HIV positive she is still testing negative!






Family portrait!